The Actual Dance
written by and starring
One Night Only - Tuesday March 21, 2017
The Actual Dance has been inside me for a long time, I just did not know it. It has been unfolding for about five years, as elements of the show have appeared through my work with Artistic New Directions and teachers Carol Fox Prescott, Gary Austin and Jeffrey Sweet.
The Actual Dance became full-born when I hired Gabrielle Maisels as my dramaturg and she guided me through completing the work. And since completing in chief the script in June 2012, I have learned that the show itself has a deep gift within it – and that each time I perform I learn new things about the work and the gift.
It has broad appeal and presents a point of view that is almost never heard. It is the man’s story and voice in the breast cancer experience. It is a love story. And it is a story that explicitly talks about confronting the most dreaded possible experience – taking the person you love most in the world through the end of life. It isn’t about their story—it is about “How do I do this? How do I dance the last dance with (Susan)?” It is about moving from the fear of a “devastating and tragic experience” to an understanding of “the beauty and dignity” of the gift of the Actual Dance and that “it will be the ultimate consummation of our love.”